Gift Giving/Compliments

     Similar to the issue of 'face' in Taiwan, giving gifts and compliments are very important cultural issues. In general, it is not as important what you give or say as it is that you refuse to accept the gift or disagree with whatever is said. Somehow, the stronger you refuse, the more polite you are. Of course, the younger generation is more schooled in Western culture through movies and interactions with teachers at school, but housewives, businessmen, or most  anyone over the age of 18 will undoubtably shower you with kind words and gifts if you form any kind of relationship with them.

     Whether a compliment about how well you speak Chinese (you can only speak a couple of words...), or a request for you to just try another small bite of something they whipped up for dinner (a 7-course feast which never seems to end...), or a box of chocolates they brought over to your house-warming party, you will be expected to refuse vehemently and then eventually accept the gift/compliment sheepishly but with deep appreciation.

     Like a victorian drama, Chinese culture and etiquette exists on many levels, and the ability to keep a cool head and humble attitude works wonders towards acclimating to and ingratiating yourself in Chinese culture and society. Just remember, if you aren't sincere, you will be discovered immediately because the Chinese as a society are experts at scrutinizing behavior. Don't misinterpret someone's flattery for actually thinking you are whatever they say you are, but take it simply as their wish to compliment you and make you feel comfortable. The Taiwanese can be some of the most helpful, complimentary and hospitable people in the world because of their Confucian tradition praising such behavior.